7 Signs That You May Have Suffered a Narcissistic Abuse

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Common Tactics Used by Narcissists

The grandiosity of a narcissist makes them believe that they are superior to everyone else, so they believe that they deserve special treatment. Despite this, they have a distorted self-image, one that is built from shame and a lot of insecurities.

  • Gaslighting. This is when a narcissist causes one to doubt their own reality, perceptions, and memories using lies and twisting facts.
  • Triangulation. This is when a narcissist uses people to force their beliefs and opinions on you.
  • Scapegoating. This is when a narcissist single out a person to either blame them or treat them negatively.
  • Hoovering. These are tactics used by an abusive person to pull you back into a relationship with them in an attempt to reconnect with you.
  • Silent treatment. An abusive person may go silent on you in an attempt to manipulate you or isolate you.
  • Passive aggression. This is when an individual indirectly expresses their negative feelings through sabotage, sarcasm, or blame-shifting rather than openly expressing them.
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  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Body aches and pain
  • Muscle pains and aches
  • Nausea
  • Changes in appetite
  • Weight gain or weight loss
  • Headaches
  • Anxiety
  • depression
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I Realize That I Am a Victim. Now What Next

Remember that you were put here to succeed and to thrive. Many people have healed from the abuse and are living fulfilling lives. You too can.

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  • Recognize and accept that you are a victim of narcissistic abuse. This is a big step because many victims of abuse struggle with self-doubt and confusion. This is the first and major step to healing
  • Educate yourself. There are many resources out there that educate people on narcissism, this will play a huge role in helping you recognize the symptoms of abuse and what it has done to you. One resource that has been helpful to me is Dr. Ramani’s youtube channel.
  • Find support. Do not isolate yourself, there are many communities of people who have suffered similar abuse.
  • Seek therapy. Therapy is a great step toward recovery
  • Break up with your narcissist. If you can physically distance yourself from the narcissist, avoid them, and do not reach out to them even if you are really tempted to. If physical distancing is not possible, techniques such as gray rocking work wonders. Gray rocking is becoming emotionally unavailable and unresponsive. This will cause the narcissist to lose interest in you.
  • Include self-care in your routine. Develop healthy habits such as eating healthy and exercising, practicing journaling, yoga, and meditation. Start a hobby, adopt a pet, and in no time you will be back to your bubbly self.



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Maureen Jebichii Kimulwo

I am a Content/blog writer specializing in writing SEO-optimized articles.